I'm not trying to downplay this issue, but we need to be more aware of the topics surrounding infidelity. You can turn a shoulder and think it will never happen to you, or you can open your eyes and work on what needs improving and discuss what needs to be addressed. For a recent podcast exploring sex addiction , I found myself at 12pm on a Thursday at a local massage parlour in Sydney, and I'm not talking about a plush day spa.
I have previously visited a high-class brothel, but there was something different about this place and the volume of people that frequented it. At the brothel, it was very discreet and felt like those who were in the rooms were there for quite some time. At the massage parlour, even though I couldn't see the client's faces, I could hear the phone constantly ringing, the buzzer from the door going as each new customer walked in and could see the outlines of bodies from the security cameras in the office where I was hiding.
Men were walking in one of two entrances like they were picking up a snack from the local cafe at lunch. While I don't have a problem with transactional sexual contact paying for pleasure , some facts got under my skin.
Ronny, the woman who manages this particular parlour during the day informed me that, "Days are all cash, work that out. And nights are credit cards. That's obvious. Is that because they don't want the 10 per cent surcharge? No, they can afford it, they are living within their means. It's because there is no paper trail. Ronny also later informed me that 80 per cent of these day clients were either in a relationship or married.
In the time I spent hiding in the office or sneaking around the many rooms, I couldn't help wonder about the men and their relationship status and if I might know their partners or wives. How does it work? Ronny explains, "We are a massage parlour. We offer happy endings, playful touching and erotic massage. We are different from others because we also legally carry a brothel licence.
